Raising a child who is of a race different than one’s own race or racial identity is often called “transracial fostering.” It has been a controversial and political issue since the early 1950s. Much of the debate surrounds the question, “Can a white person foster a child of color?”
The answer is yes. The strategies outlined in this piece can apply to every multi-ethnicity family. You need to explore the unique challenges you both will face to ensure your foster child will thrive.
Start by understanding and recognizing the challenges that youth of color face
Children of color are a part of the general population of kids but are overrepresented in the U.S. foster care system when compared to their representation in the overall population of kids. Historical, systemic, and institutional factors have and still contribute to children of color being placed and remaining in the system for longer periods. These factors also impact the ability to find a permanent home, such as being united with family, living with relatives, or adoption. In contrast, white children are placed more quickly and find permanence sooner.
Racial issues are still prevalent and have a real impact on youth in foster care
Many white foster parents have the best intentions and embark on the journey armed with love and a “color-blind” attitude. While this is a wonderful place to start, it is not realistic or ideal for you or the child in your care.
There has never been more focus on healing the racial divide, but the harsh realities of racial disparity and inequity remain. How you understand and develop strategies to meet these unique challenges can make all the difference. Practice cultural humility and never make assumptions. Acknowledge, learn, and stay open to new and sometimes even uncomfortable experiences to set the child in your care up for success. Some of the most critical topics to explore are:
Identity Development
Your foster youth may struggle with forming a solid sense of identity if they do not have someone who shares their cultural heritage to model after. Keep reading for valuable strategies to address this challenge.
Racial Discrimination
You can expect your child has already or will experience racial discrimination or prejudice, and/or racism both within and outside their foster home at some point. Learn how to communicate with your foster child about difficult topics about race, including white privilege, implicit bias, and racial profiling.
Educate yourself on your child’s culture
You will want to learn from your child but also research on your own.
Learn about their cultural heritage, including customs, traditions, and history, to better understand and appreciate the significance of certain practices and the challenges your child may face. Talk with your child if they are comfortable sharing their own experiences. Even asking a simple question about how they celebrated a holiday or special occasion with their family can help foster a deeper bond and understanding.
Explore resources, including your local library, mini films, articles, and various government and public websites, that offer insight into different cultures. Spend time exploring independently and sharing the best resources with your child. Here are additional websites to help you on your journey.
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Build a supportive environment
Building a supportive environment for your foster child is crucial to their overall well-being and growth. It takes time and effort, but the benefits will last a lifetime.
Surround your child with diverse books, toys, and media that reflect their racial, ethnic, and cultural background and identities.
Encourage open and honest communication with your circle of friends and family, stressing the importance of cultural humility, sensitivity, and respect. Ensure your child feels safe sharing their experiences, emotions, and concerns. Help them process when they experience discrimination, bias, or racism.
Host a cultural gathering, including traditional cuisine, decorations, music, and activities celebrating their culture. Invite people from the child’s community and your circle of friends and family. These celebratory moments can foster a sense of belonging and empowerment.
Seek cultural resources and support groups
Encourage belonging and a larger sense of community by connecting your child with cultural organizations and support groups. Places like local community centers or cultural organizations may offer programs, workshops, activities, or support groups tailored to children in foster care and their caregivers.
Attend community events and cultural festivals, or even visit cultural landmarks. Encourage them to join events that honor who the child is, their culture, and identities, like dance lessons, art, cooking, and other activities.
You can also explore online communities and social media groups focusing on your child’s culture, enhancing their sense of identity, belonging, and confidence. Ensure these are positive spaces that are inclusive and reflect diverse identities, cultures, and experiences. These virtual spaces can be a valuable source of advice, encouragement, and connections.
Empower your child to embrace their identity
Empowering your child to embrace their identity is crucial for their well-being and self-esteem. Here are some strategies to support their journey.
Validate their feelings
Let your foster child know their experiences and emotions are valid and important. Ensure they know they can express themselves without fear of judgment, misinterpretation, or rejection.
When possible, protect the connection to their Birth family
Even though the child is in foster care, keeping a bond with their birth and extended family can help them stay connected to their community. Foster positive and regular communication, seek assistance from your Cayuga Centers Foster Care team when needed. Honor and uphold the child’s cultural practices and traditions.
Celebrate diversity
Spend time on your own and with your child learning about other cultures, traditions and experiences to help them expand their understanding and knowledge of all cultures. This will help you and your child grow and adapt to a continually changing world.
Encourage self-expression
Provide opportunities for your child to explore their interests, talents, and hobbies. Whether it’s music, art, sports, or writing, encourage them to express themselves in ways that resonate with their identity.
Work with a culturally sensitive therapist to provide additional support and counseling
If your child is struggling with their identity, don’t hesitate to contact your Cayuga Centers team for assistance. A therapist can create a safe space for them to explore their emotions and develop a positive self-image. You can also utilize appropriate online resources when needed.
Remember, there is always more to learn and ways to grow
Supporting and empowering your child requires dedication and a proactive approach.
Uncover and acknowledge your own biases and prejudices and address them. Show acceptance and respect for everyone, and create a safe and inclusive space for your child to feel valued and supported.
By nurturing a strong and loving bond with your child, you make a positive impact on their journey of self-discovery. You provide them with the tools and support they need to thrive now and in the future.
Lastly, remember your quest to learn should be an ongoing process. Continue to learn and grow together with your foster or potential foster child. You can learn more with us at Cayuga Centers.
